Tools to Make Better Relocation Decisions
These tools to make better relocation decisions,
are not relocation standard.
Assessments, Relocation and Better Decisions.
Many of us took personal assessments before we graduated from high school. Or perhaps we took them as part of a team building process on the job. But I have not met one person who took these specifically for relocation.
What they measure though, is valuable, if not more valuable in the family setting. That is because each family member has an innate interest in the relocation. Outside of the core family, personal assessments can help to identify they type of partners, communities and new friends that create success for the relocating family.
If you know who you are, the needed whos and whats are more easily identified.
Personal Assessments provide personal knowledge. Knowledge that can positively impact all decisions and potential success.
What if you believed you had the answer to just about any question, options or conundrum that presented itself?
What if you knew the answer before the question was asked?
Believing “I’ve got this!” before any question or challenge appeared…opens up options and changes the outcome.
Today, we are talking about 4 types of assessments:
Knowing these four areas leads to better decisions in every context, like when choosing a school that will embrace and encourage your child, choosing a great employer and negotiating with relocation partners. Knowing who you are, and all of the “whos’” in the family, affects every relocation decision. Knowing as much as possible, leads to “right decision” the first time.
- Who to bring in and who to keep out.
- What to bring in and what to keep out.
- How to handle a situation and how not to handle a situation.
- How each family member gets along best.
- Which strengths and talents can be tapped into and synergized.
- What personality types or process types will not work with the family.
When the personal who(s) are known, then it is easier to identify the people, activities, communities and processes that will most likely align with the family.
There are many different Four Quadrant personality type assessments on the market. You, like me, may have taken the Meyers-Briggs assessment in High school and college. I found it kind of interesting then. But when I took it later in life it began to make sense due to life experience.
It reveals personality traits like drive, awareness of details, desire for continuity or even extroversion vs. introversion. Interestingly, personality assessment can change over time. This is because personality can be influenced by culture, life experience, what we learn from others and even relocation.
A FREE personality assessment based on the Meyers-Briggs Test is from Personality Hackers. The nice thing about this company is that they provide immediate results to an email. That free information includes potential personality traits and even how one type gets along with other types.
This assessment takes about 10 minutes. https://personalityhacker.com/genius-personality-test/
Temperament is different than personality, in that temperament is hardwired and unchanging. What I learned through taking this assessment is that I am not as go with the flow as I thought I was. As a matter of fact, my family was like…”No, you are kind of controlling. And you always have been.”
Once I made peace with this information I realized it made quite a bit of sense. I could see it as I looked back over my life. I always thought my sister was the controller type, but it was really me. I am the ring leader in my little family, and that’s OK.
FREE Videos that explain and explore the different temperaments are available from the app “I SAID THIS, YOU HEARD THAT”, available on Apple IOS and Android. Watching the videos as a family will help everyone easily see which temperament they are.
A workbook is available for approx. $30 with a paper assessment and worksheets at https://www.isaidyouheard.study/.
The Strength assessment is the fun one. CliftonStrengths or StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup lists out the strengths for each individual in descending order. They have interesting titles like Ideation and Woo.
Woo is one of my 5 Strengths – “People exceptionally talented in the Woo theme love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over. They derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection with someone.” From https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths
This assessment show what each individual is strong iin, what they should lean into and where they will most likely experience success. My dad asked me to do this for years. When I finally gave in, I found this enlightening especially in relation to how my father and I work together.
https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths Top 5 Strengths $19.99 or
all 34 CliftonStrengths $49.99 per person.
Knowing your stressors and more importantly, how you react in normal situations vs. stressful situations is enlightening.
I think most of us think we will react the same exact way, based on our values and who we are, no matter the situation or the people involved. But, that simply is not the case. When I took the Birkman Assessment a few years ago, I was shock to find out that I do not react the same way during stress. In some situations, I do the exact opposite of what I would in a “normal” situation.
Relocation months 0 to 4 is anything but “normal”. This is why I found the Birkman Assessment so fascinating and applicable. During relocation we all experience multiple missed expectations and disappointments, perhaps daily. When the stress response is known ahead of time, the response can be decided in real time. Knowing that the “normal” response is not the auto response, we have the ability to remember, pause and choose our response.
The Birkman is the most expensive of the four assessments, but it assesses something that the others do not; Stress and stress responses.
Birkman Method Assessment https://birkman.com/solutions/birkman-basics/
Assessment Wrap up
Most importantly, sit down as a family and compare everyone’s results. Each family member, through this exercise, will learn something new about each of the other family members. The new knowledge, especially when the kids learn something unknown about their parents, gives the children another way to think about their parents and potentially create another connection.
When talking about each person’s personality, temperament, strengths and stressors each family member, everyone gains new insight and has new ability to understand the others. This understanding drives compassion. Compassion drives patience in the time of hardship or disappointment.
Patience is something that everyone in the family needs an abundance of during relocation.
On the PRACTICAL SIDE, know this information helps drive those “first right” decisions I talked about in the beginning. It is through knowing ourselves that we can hire the best partners. Whether real estate agents, mortgage brokers, movers, inspectors, etc., when we know ourselves we are able to:
- See the people who will best work with us.
- Share or adapt to our work ethic and rules.
- Negotiate for things we now know are important.
- Educate partners as to how best to work with us(time sensitivity, attitude, work ethic, communication, pet peeves, etc).
- AND Not bring in people or processes that will slow or hinder our relocation.
Personal assessment knowledge provides a new level of control.
In Relocation, the last thing we need to is have anyone slow it down or throw in a monkey wrench. The assessments help identify who and what will not work or serve the relocation. Even when we must accept the only option, this information provides a reminder to communicate what is most important to a partner so that they can be successful.
For more information about all things relocation explore the ReloMoms Weekly Podcast available on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, as well as the other blogs here on ReloMoms.
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