So, what is Relocation Coaching?
Relocation coaching is using the best tools and resources available and a guide who went before you, to create a relocation that serves your family.
Just like in sports, if you want to become a top athlete, a coach will help you enhance the skills you have. Help you identify skill gaps and provide training to help you learn quickly and achieve top performance.
By hiring a coach, you do not have to try out multiple training methods. Nor do you have to search for information or spend time sifting through things that apply and a whole lot that do not apply.
Like a sports coach, a relocation coach determines where you are and then provides what you need, information, resources and skills training. No spinning your wheels or wasting time. From logistics to mind management relocation coaching guides you through each week, with a special focus on managing the mind.
How we “think” during relocation, the negative or self-destructive thoughts, those are the ones that can get us into the biggest pickle. In relocation, due to the short time frame and high expectations, we can find ourselves making decisions in a hurry. Hiring relocation partners because the discounts are only good right then. Choosing communities and school from recommendations by people who we do not know, because a decision must be made.
There are so many pressures and shoulds and outside expectations to be met, many of us bend to it, because it is just easier.
Easier in the moment.
It is not easier when we realize those decisions were based on other peoples’ values and needs. Not ours. And then we get to make it work.
No Bending to External Pressure
A relocation coach does not bend to those pressures. As relocation coach, I am only interested in:
You and your family relocating well.
This means that helping you to identify and execute family centric relocation plan, share resources and tools to prevent distractions as the new job ramps up, and stay with you until the family is acclimated and engaged in the new community.
This is achieved by concentrating on what is most important. You, your family, your individual and shared values and needs. Every decision based on who your family is leads to great first decisions. From choosing a community to choosing and managing relocation partners, coaching helps you align your values and needs to make more decisions right, the first time.
The pressure and judgement we put on ourselves during relocation can be far more limiting than any outside pressure. It may begin as second guessing the decision to relocate. It may appear as concern over your job prospects or wondering if the relocation is having negative effects on the children. When life is not just as we would like it to be, we begin questioning everything. Doubting.
The reasons for the relocation and the benefits we have experienced so far, are nowhere to be found. The negative talk takes over and presents itself as truth.
Ultimately, it is your internal negative/self-limiting talk, flashes of passing thoughts, that will knock you down. If repeated often enough, “I can’t do this” eventually, you will experience overwhelm and shutdown. Perhaps for an hour or a few weeks, but it will come, like a self-fulfilling prophesy.
As a relocation coach I am watching for this. What we say to ourselves produces results in our lives. It drives our emotions and what we do…and, what we do not do.
Watching for these thoughts is difficult on our own. We like to lie to ourselves or at least sugar coat with a thick layer of frosting. This looks like “It’s fine.” “I can deal with that later.” “I didn’t really want that anyway.” But these can be deadly to productivity. Though we are trying to convince ourselves it is all OK…
Our brains call foul,
digs in its’ heals, works hard to find proof,
it’s not fine.
Weeding Out the Negative
Through relocation coaching, you have a partner walking through your garden of thoughts. With this process you begin to see for yourself, the weeds that are sprouting to choke out what your dream for this relocation is.
As you see these weedy thoughts, it becomes possible to choose whether to keep them or not. It is from this vantage point you can make the strongest decisions. Decisions that allow you to easily pull up those weeds, get you back to your relocation goals.
With those thoughts seen and resolved, staying present becomes easier. This provides space and energy to make those decisions on the fly, especially when something goes wrong. In addition, being present and at ease, gives your mind the ability to consider all types of options and create better solutions.
Relocation coaching is for all stages of relocation. It doesn’t matter which stage you are in, just decided, in transition or settling in and connecting, relocation coaching walks with you to where you want to be. Living the life you want to live, your way, as part of the new community.
Try Coaching for Yourself!
You can tryout relocation coaching for free. Email me, Annette Walters, at ReloMomsOne@gmail.com to schedule 2 Relocation Consults. You will learn something use and walk away with tools you can you today.
My passion is to help you relocate well from packing to connecting!
Your ReloMom Friend – Annette
For more information about relocating well
The ReloMoms 3 Step Relocation Workbook goes into detail as to what you need to know in order to relocate well. And it is FREE!!