Support Systems are one of the most overlooked problems in Relocation.
Most who move are self-starters, people who just get things done. Because of this we do not always recognize the structure around us that supports and allows our lives to function as they do.
WE CAN FIGURE OUT ANYTHING
And we can. The problem is, figuring it out takes time and sometime events occur that need an answer RIGHT NOW!
Mary and Stephan moved into their new Minneapolis home last week. The new job was going well and they were both excited about exploring the new parks and lakes with their kids. On Sunday night Stephan wasn’t feeling well and by 10pm Mary knew something wasn’t right.
She called 911 and the ambulance arrived. Stephan was having a heart attack.
Which hospital? She didn’t know. The kids were asleep, she couldn’t go with him. She didn’t have any friends. Would her Realtor answer at this time of night?
What does Mary do?
Even a month or two from now, she would know ~ who to call, where to go and how the process would unfold. All the decisions made and expectations known.
When relocating knowing what to do is intact, knowing who and how to is gone. So, lets create both an immediate and long term support structure.
SUPPORT IS ABOUT PEOPLE
A Support System is knowledgeable and reliable. It is consists of a web of people from the neighborhood, school, work, social groups, the hardware store, the city and more that are go to resources.
This is why choosing your initial relocation team is so critical. Beyond helping you find and close on your home, these people are your first connections and friends in your new community.
WHO IS ON MY INITIAL LIST
Real Estate: Realtor, Mortgage Banker, Inspector
Work: co-workers, co-worker spouses
School: PTA President/Membership, School Counselor, Daycare Manager
These are real people who have personal experience with the schools, neighborhoods, commuting, local hospitals and everything in the community. And though you are not friends yet, they will have information only gained by living there.
WHAT YOU WANT TO KNOW
How to set up utilities
How to apply for homestead
How to pay local taxes
Types of local grocery stores
New processes (i.e. quarterly pest treatment)
Closest Target or Sam’s Club
How to obtain a drivers license, etc.
Family Specific local knowledge is based on your life stage, what your family does for activities, special needs and life style.
School required immunizations
Transportation/commuting options, etc.
Think about how you live life. Now think about who and what supports or make life work the way it does.
Defining this before your relocation is important. These are the topics to ask of the first few people you work with and meet in the process of relocating.
IF YOU HAVE NOT CHOSEN a Real Estate Team, these are excellent topics to use in the interviewing process. The information will help you decide if each of the members understand you and what you are working to get accomplished.
#4 Relo Challenge Support Systems Worksheet
The #4 Relo Challenge Support Systems Worksheet through questions and suggestions will help create a list to pursue. It will help you identify what you are looking for and why. This makes the support system easier and more efficient to establish.
As will most things this will evolve over time. So, do not get caught up in making it perfect.
HOW TO SOLVE MARY’S ISSUE ON THE FLY
In Mary’s position, the first call after 911 Emergency, would be to anyone local who will answer the phone in the middle of the night. The new boss, Realtor, or mortgage broker. The second action would be to knock on a neighbor’s door that you met while moving in.
Without help, pack up the kids, their immunization records and head to the hospital together. This way daycare is possible in the morning.
If the #2 Emergency Worksheet is complete, you already know who will pick up, where the kids can go and the where the best hospital is.
PERSONAL SUPPORT SYSTEM
If this is your first move, you may not realize all of the pieces you have put into place. The people, processes and organizations that make your life run the way it does have been put there through experience and recommendations.
This is what you will do again, but this time more efficiently.
By completing the Support Systems Worksheet you will have the first draft to having your life supported and running like you want to live.
If you have any suggestions to help others please email me at Annette@ReloMoms.com. Together we live great Relo Lives!!
A ReloMom currently in the wilds of Texas, working to encourage and inspire others while seeking another adventure.