Feed Your Passion

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Feeding your Passions after relocation can feel impossible.  Your passion is part of a group or activity, a thousand miles away and the local area doesn’t have that type of group or activity anywhere near by.  Everything is different and without your group it is now impossible to feed your passion for  “______” like you used to.

The challenges are real and the circumstances are set.  It may seem dire or even impossible to jump back in but there are a few ways to do that, with a few new thoughts and some creative thinking.

Feed Your Passion through Support

The monthly meeting are not possible, nor is hitting the road with the running club or reading to kids at school.  But there is participation beyond physically being there.

These groups of people and their activities can always be supported in other ways.  Most of these groups depend on getting the word out about who they are and how to participate.  Your passion for the group and what they do is invaluable.

Consider active Facebook or Social Media participation.  Your posts about the group drive traffic as well as provides a real opinion about the group and what they do.  Other posts can include safety tips that apply to the activity,  i.e. stretching for runners or injury prevention.  Also think about posting about why you joined and how it served your passion.  This will help others looking to feed a shared passion to consider this group.

In addition, the active Facebook participation is connection with your friends in the previous group is that it provide things to talk about and strategize on.  A reason to call and chat.

Feed Your Passion through Skills Development

Just about everything we can think to do requires skills and practice.  Even an Olympic Runner is constantly striving to improve.  Learning about nutrition, mental focus hacks or technical tweaks to enhance performance there is always something to learn.

If you have found yourself in a place without a way to feed your passion through an existing group or place it is time to change the attention to enhancing skills development.

Consider creating a Passion project that begins with research and ends with being an expert.  An expert who knows every aspect of the subject that support a personal passion. 

Back to the running example, have your considered lately how to improve on your performance from an equipment standpoint.  What is the latest in shoe technology?  What is the most accurate distance terrain tracking device?  How is a cold and snowy day conquered?

Striving to become an expert opens up your mind to the world beyond what the original passion experience and boundaries.  The additional knowledge will provide new ways and topics to connect with others you meet in your new community.

Feed your Passion through Activity

We all know the local running club isn’t going to come knock on the door one morning and ask you if you want to come run with them.  Joining a local club take getting out into the community and doing it, sometimes alone at first.  Doing what you love, your passion, is what feeds your passion and ultimately being in the community doing and talking about it then connects you with others in the new community. 

Finding my passion project people

For example, I am working on a passion project to promote a local charity that works to teach personal character values (honesty, discipline, respect, kindness, etc.) through a full time in school Karate program, Kickstart Kids.  My network upon starting this few weeks ago was cold.  In addition, I do not live in the school districts where Kickstart Kids is located.  I needed to get connected in order to find those interested in going to the benefit.

My solution was to visit over 35 networking and Chamber of Commerce meetings over 4 and a half weeks.  This was tough to do especially in the towns where the program was located.  But all of that changed as I attended meetings that were listed on internet.

As a result, I met people at each meeting that would say, “you should attend this networking meeting tomorrow or next week.” 

The only meeting I could find for a city would then turn into 3 or 4 other meetings.  As a result during that first week, I found and was invited to enough meeting that I met my 35 meeting goal.  During these first few weeks I have talked to at least a hundred people now.

The Bonus

After that, a funny thing happened.  I started to connect and began connecting people to each other.  Not only did I find people who were interested in my story, but as I listened to theirs I was able to help them out by connecting people to each other.

In the first couple of weeks I have had the chance to feed my passion for Kickstart Kids by telling the story, but more importantly I have found a number of connections that share my passion for improving the lives of inner city and at risk kids.  I have begun to build a passion based group I never expected to find.

Cast a Wide Net

Consider attending any of your local meetings whether garden club, chamber of commerce or PTA.  Work to meet as many people as possible and get connected either via social media or with an old fashioned phone number. 

When asked what you do, use this as an opportunity to talk about the recent relocation and your passion.  A relocation, even a year old, is an instant conversation starter for most of the people you will meet.  Most will take an interest in your passion whether or not they have the same passion, and consequently will even find a new connection for you, either a group or a person.

The point is to meet as many people as possible and cast a wide net.

Next, especially if there is no existing group, consider starting up your own group.  In the age of city mom groups, the internet and social media getting the word out get easier every year.  And after attending the local meetings you will have a number of contacts who will be willing to share your new group personally with who they know.

Feed your Passion beyond the Four Walls

We can go for a run by ourselves.  We can foster dogs on our own.  We can paint by ourselves at a local park. We can…but we need community.

By sharing and living our passions with others, this is what feeds our passions most fully.

Life starts out with only the core family in the first few relocation weeks. However, to start living our lives, as we want to, we need to live our passions, expand what we know, support the people from our previous community as well as find the new people who share our passion where we are now.

This is how we all feed our passion and build our new sense of community.

Annette Walters is an empty nester who has relocated 13 times with 2 years as an EXPAT. She shares her life with her talented husband and sweet Coco the dog with whom she is always looking share the next adventure in the Wilds of Texas and far, far beyond.

For other ideas on connecting see my blog “Connecting after Relocation

RELOCATION: How to Connect Easily

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Finding a repeatable and yet easy way to connect is the key to a successful relocation.
Why?
Because it’s the connections
that make relocation work.

WHO ARE YOU AFFILIATED WITH?

If you are an Texas Aggie in London (London A&M Club) or a Manchester United Fan now in Miami (Miami Manchester United Fan Club), chances are those strong affiliations will be easy to find.  Why?  Because some organizationS establish themselves wherever their members wander to.

Traditionally, these “affiliations” are established through what you have done and participated in before and sometimes the ones you LOVE.

LET’S START OPENING THOSE DOORS

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List it out:

  • What you like to do
  • Groups you belong to
  • Group or charity you think you would like
  • Teams you LOVE

And then there are the ones you may not think of….

 WHO YOU ARE
AND WHAT YOU HAVE DONE

As simple as birth.  Strong affiliations and groups exist just for being born to a certain culture, like being Jewish.  Other birth related groups are bloodline but not culture specific, like Daughters of the American Revolution or the Magna Carta.

Others are established through choice.  Are you an Eagle Scout, Silver Award Girl Scout or did you attend a University where their alumni wear their rings for life?

These types of alumni seek each other out.  It is a club that comes from a shared experience.  It’s as if they have a secret language between them.

NO AFFILIATIONS, NO PROBLEM

Do not despair.  There are plenty opportunities to choose from.

Starting with some of the national and international organization will be an excellent place to start, especially if there is a chance of another relocation.

A mother of pre-schoolers?  MOPS is one of the national US groups that gives immediate access to other mothers in this stage of life.  With childcare provided, this give the moms time to get to know one another and perhaps begin new friendships.

No children?  No worries.  Look into clubs like Lions Club, Kiwannas and Rotary.  These clubs focus in on providing eye glasses and water in 3rd world areas, improving the local community, networking and even nearly eliminating Polio.

https://www.rotary.org/en

No matter what local club you walk into, by looking at their about page you will know what they values.  For example, Rotary’s core values are demonstrated by “Four Way Test” which is repeated at every meeting around the world.

  • Is it the TRUTH?
  • Is it FAIR to all concerned?
  • Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
  • Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

It provides consistency of purpose and atmosphere, everywhere.

IT’S LIKE BUILT IN FRIENDS…

By joining one of the national or international groups/charities, it’s like walking into to a group of friends.

On some level, you already know each other.

And walking into one of their meetings in Fort Myers or Amsterdam, brings that introduction before the first hello.  The sign in host will most likely greet you with an excitement reserved for a long lost loved one.

NOW IT IS TIME TO MEET THE LOCALS

Step forward in confidence that you will meet locals who will be happy to meet you.

Whether or not you stay long term, you will meet REAL Locals.  They will love to share what they know about the community and show a willingness to help as you settle in.

Click on the Easy Connecting Resource Guide for more ideas on how to meet the locals..

Have a wonderful week and we will catch you next week with:

RELOCATION: Simple Steps to knowing where you live