“REALLY? Who am I? Seems like a vague question in the face of moving companies, realtors, new schools and house hunts.
I don’t have time for that.
What does “Who am I?“, have to do with relocation?”
And I agree, it seems like a hippy ,frivolous time waster. However, knowing who you are, is essential to both relocation planning and execution.
“Every minute you spend planning,
saves 10 minutes of execution”
~ Brian Tracy ~
Knowing yourself is actually the path to creating and effective plan and efficient relocation.
The main reason you want to know as much as possible about yourself, is that during the first few months, you will answer more relocation generated questions than you have in the last 5 years. It is exhausting, but defining who you are is like holding all the answers to a test.
WHAT ARE YOUR EMOTIONAL NEEDS?
Typically, pain brings front and center what we need. I am so hungry I NEED to eat now. I am so mad at ______, I NEED to tell him what jerk he is. But what unmet emotional needs drive that pain.
Knowing your emotional needs affect how you make decisions. By knowing you need to feed, you make decisions that lead to where you want to end up.
Our emotional needs drive every decision we make, good or bad. The need to feed them leads us to strive for greatness, self-destruct or even become addicted. Tony Robbins describes this in depth.
“The 6 emotional needs” TED Talk by Tony Robbins, with over 20 Million views, is one of the most insightful and easy to grasp presentations about why we do what we do.
I liked his quote, “We will do anything, positive or negative, to meet that emotional need.”
By listening to this TED Talk, you will be able to identify your emotional needs, and as a bonus, be able to identify these needs in others.
This exceptionally important when working with others. During the relocation, there will be a team of people you are required to work with. And even though, you are the client, time frames will be so tight that you will have to work with those presented to you.
By having the ability to see the emotional needs of others you will understand what you need to do or say to effectively communicate with those around you and ultimately minimize relocation frustration.
HOW DO YOU WORK WITH OTHERS?
To work with this new team even more effectively, take a moment to learn a little more about how you work with the world at large.
StrengthFinders 2.0 has one of the easiest assessments to take and understand out there. It is an easy little book with 31 pages of instructions, 143 pages of theme information and a code. This code gives you access to an only assessment which identifies your 5 core themes.
One of the best things about going through this simple process is that you begin to understand how many different variations there are even in your core family. With 34 themes there are over 33 million different top 5 combinations possible.
For example, my top 5 themes are:
Strategic, Ideation, Futuristic, Positivity, and Woo.
Of course my first thought was, “what is Woo?”
“Woo stands for winning over others. You enjoy the challenge of meeting new people and getting them to like you. Strangers are rarely intimidating to you. On the contrary, strangers can be energizing….” StrengthFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath Page 169.
It’s true. I love to work a room, meet new people and learn more about them and this world.
StregthFinders 2.0 also gives examples of how WOOs work in the world; how WOOs sound in conversation, what makes WOOs stand out, and how WOOs work with others WOOs.
This assessment takes less than 20 minutes. By taking it, I learned how to craft messages that my creative son could hear. I learned how to engage my analytical husbands when I needed something done. Knowing more about who I am helped dramatically in times of unusual stress and frustration. .
LEARNING ABOUT YOU AND NAVIGATING RELOCATION
Navigating your relocation will require you to ask questions of yourself, finding resources and finding answers. Look to books, podcasts, TED Talks, sermons, blogs and classes that speak truth.
It is the patience that comes with knowing who you are, that will be the most effective tool as you walk through ALL of the relocation surprises.
Please leave a comment below and add any resources you have found that will help other ReloMoms.
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